Monday, March 14, 2011
We Are All Prostitutes
Women that is. Don't get mad. Yes we are! First of all, let me define what a prostitute is. A prostitute is one who engages in sexual activity with another person in exchange for compensation, such as money or other valuable goods. If you have ever gotten anything of monetary value from a man, then honey, you ARE a pro!
As women, our bodies are pawns in the game of relationships. Once we decide to settle for the most eligible competitor, it is usually based on a number of factors. Financial stability (or the prospect of such) is usually one of the biggest factors. He does not have to be balling and stanking rich now, but he must appear to have ambition and to be going someplace in life.
Prostitution does not necessarily indicate some kind of back alley blowjob. Nor does it encompass some scantily clad skank with bad makeup and horrid hair. A prostitute could be as upscale as one of Heidi Fleiss's call girls. She could be as wayward and naive as Princess Di was. She could be the busy housewife down the street. She could be your girlfriend. She could be you.
Profiting from the Booty
Our body is our weapon. We all have phenomenal power in our vagina. There have been odes, poems, stories, and songs written about it. Monuments have been built, and cities have been destroyed because of it. What we have learnt to do over the centuries is to harness that power. We have been inherently socialized to not let anyone access the naani unless we are directly benefiting from it. (This is why they say prostitution is the oldest profession). Now, how much we benefit is up to us. Some only gain a drink or two at the club from the naani. Some get to eat at a nice restaurant. Heck, some are even willing to trade it for the dollar menu at McDonald's!
Again, how we profit is within our control. On the higher end of the spectrum, some women hold on to the goods until they get the ring. With the ring comes the aforementioned financial stability which every woman craves. With the ring comes unlimited access to the spouse's earnings. The sky is the limit with the ring. I have withheld sex from my STBE during the times I was pissed off with him. Whenever I wanted something from him, be it money or a favor, I would put it on him in the worst way. He knew what time it was. And I have no shame in my game. I was happy to get what I wanted, and he was happy to get what he wanted.
Most recently, I have gone out and accepted drinks from men. No, I have not slept with any of them, but I suppose it is the promise of making conversation with me that initiates the buying of drinks in the first place. Conversation leads to getting to know me which potentially leads to bedding me. Unfortunately for them, it has not happened. I also recently accepted an expensive gift from a male friend with whom I have never been romantic. Of course I know there is an intent behind the gifts yet still I accept the niceties because I believe that if a man wants to approach me he should come strong. And, money is not everything but I have been around long enough to know that money is something and without it you can do nothing!
So, if we are all prostitutes that means all men are johns? Yes. Sorry fellas, that's just the way it is. Before we decide to give it up we should first decide how much we are worth. Many women are selling themselves short. We don't expect much from our men (johns) so we don't get much. That independent woman mess is ruining potential relationships. Some men take women out and split the bill because they claim they do not want to insult us. Other men reverse the roles completely and expect women to take care of them financially! Nothing is wrong with being independent, but a man still has to feel needed. If he does not feel needed, he will not step up and fulfill the role you expect him to.
When we do get a decent man we sometimes forget to "make him feel good", so he in turn loses interest and will sometimes move on. We have to play our roles, up the ante, and reap the rewards of our hard work, because yes, maintaining a relationship is hard work!